Not so effective:

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• Threats “Quit that or I’ll give you something to whine about!”
• Commands “Stop it right now!”
• Giving in “All right already! You can have a candy bar.”
• Making vague promises “Maybe later.”
• Promising but not following through “I’ll be right there.”
• Whining yourself “Pleeeze stop! Why do you whine all the time?? It drives me crazy!”[/bulletlist]

More Effective:

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• Redirecting “If you say that in a normal voice, we can talk about it.”
• Ignoring “I don’t pay attention to whines.”
• Humor “Did you say something? I don’t understand that language.”
• Labelling the whine “That’s a whine, which is not a good way to ask for something. Here’s a better way to say it.”[/bulletlist]